EQUILIBRIUM RECOVERY
The art of balancing extremes.
ABOUT EQUILIBRIUM
Equilibrium is defined as a state, or feeling, of emotional balance, of composure.
This principle, when applied to life, opens up a refreshing perspective on how we perceive ourselves and how we interact with the world around us.
Finding personal equilibrium is both liberating and life changing.
DEFINING ADDICTION & RECOVERY
Addiction is characterised by a consuming relationship with a substance or behaviour that is driven by a conscious, or unconscious, desire to feel something different, which results in a range of harmful consequences.
In striving to change the way we feel, we become slaves to our substance or behaviour of choice. We become pathologically preoccupied, or obsessed, by the need to ‘medicate’ ourselves. Everything else takes second place to this need.
The damaging consequences of this obsessive behaviour are far ranging psychologically, physically and emotionally, affecting all areas of our lives.
Recovery is an ongoing journey of change rather than a single event. There is no destination.
Everyone's recovery journey is unique. Essentially it is the process of developing a relationship with ourselves that negates our need to change the way we feel in order to feel complete, or contented.
It is an active process of change, and the changes made empower us to thrive and to participate in life to the best of our ability.
This process of change is simple, but not always easy. As with much in life, the more we practice something the better we become at it. This truism certainly applies to recovery. It is in this that we need help and support and where coaching can be invaluable.
MY STORY
My early life was one of relative affluence and good fortune. However, 10 years of all boys boarding school, a family broken by divorce, dysfunction and alcoholism were not elements that encouraged an emotionally healthy journey to adulthood.
As a boy I had a deep sense of dis-ease. I was desperately shy, insecure and despite excelling at sports my sense of self esteem was minimal. At 17 I discovered alcohol, and other drugs. They gave me a degree of confidence I had never before experienced. It was seductive, highly addictive and, at that time, did for me what I could not do for myself.
For decades I existed rather than lived. Despite being married, having children and leading what seemed to most a normal functioning life, that included working and playing sport, I was a mess. Physically, mentally and emotionally I was a broken man.
Denial of the severity of my situation ensured I was trapped in active addiction for many years despite the multitude of damaging consequences. These ranged from prison, destroyed relationships, driving disqualification, financial chaos and being emotionally unavailable as a husband, father and friend.
My path to recovery and the life I have to day started in 2004. I was fortunate to learn early in my own recovery that the opposite of addiction is connection.
Recovery from addiction is not something we can do alone. I help my clients connect with others and, most importantly, with themselves.
As a Recovery Coach Professional my motivation stems from my personal experience in the transformative power of recovery.
My truth is that in recovery I have found everything I sought in alcohol and drugs.
With over 4 decades of addiction and recovery I have a wealth of experience to pass on. I am passionate about helping others and thrive on witnessing the positive impact that recovery has on people's lives.
My coaching helps empower you to reclaim your health, relationships, and overall well-being.
